Leslie paced the floor back and forth with the phone on her ear. She couldn’t quite contain her nervous energy. She was having a difficult time accepting the advice coming from the other end.
“But…but…I don’t want to ruin his life. I don’t want this to hurt his clean record.” She protested.
“Leslie, how many times have you called me about this? What incident number is this one?”
“Four. This is the fourth time.” Leslie didn’t want to admit it.
“And how many of those times did you have to call out ‘sick’ from work until your bruises cleared up?”
“Four. I called out four times.” Leslie reluctantly answered as she cleared her throat.
“Correct, which means you lost at least 18 productive days of work or 144 hours. And how many hours of productivity did Rodney lose?
“Well - ”
“How many, Leslie?”
According to author Raphael Cushnir, the one thing holding you back is resisting your feelings. The one thing holding you back is refusing to feel, refusing to allow your emotions to deliver their message to you. The one thing holding you back is not healing because you don't want to feel unpleasant emotions.
Are you enough?
How do you answer this question? What's the standard you use to decide if you are enough or if you are not enough?
More than likely, you measure yourself by comparing yourself with others. More than likely, your answer to this question is, "I'm not enough".
Experts tell us that we have 60,000 - 80,000 thoughts per day (that's a lot of thoughts to keep up with). Not only do we have more thoughts than we can handle, but the majority of these thoughts are also negative! That means, most of your thoughts are rehashed and depleting.
Many of these repetitive thoughts are, "I am not enough".
When you think you are not enough, your thoughts create a reality that doesn't empower you. In fact, what you most want out of life you work far too hard to get when you don't have to:
Question for you: Who is that co-worker, friend, relative, neighbor, church member, client, loved one that has gone through a divorce (whether recently or years ago)?
You know the one I'm asking about who:
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How many times have you asked yourself, "Why can't I get over my ex? I don't even like him anymore."
The best answer you get is, "You will. It takes time to heal."
Pain does take time to heal. No one (unfortunately) can tell you just how long time will take for you to heal. The time seems...well...up to the Gods. If you could appeal to the Gods, you would certainly ask them to cut you some slack and speed up the timing. After all, you have a life to live.
However, time is not the reason you can't get over your ex. And no matter how long you force yourself to get over your ex, you can't seem to.
The reason you can't get over your ex is simple: you keep thinking about your ex and reliving the emotional experience over and over and over and over and over again. One thought leads to another thought, and those thoughts lead to more thoughts and so on and so on. Before you...
You thought he was a great guy. He was when you committed to him. He was loving, respectful, and made you feel good about yourself.
Then, the breakdown came. Your ex became a different person with you, and you became a different person with him. Following the breakdown, a breakup came, and all ugliness broke loose - yours and his. He said words to you that no woman or mother should ever hear. You said words to him that no man or father should ever hear.
He insults, blames, and riles against you, causing you to feel bad about yourself and question your worth. You try to fix matters thinking you have to because it's your nature to be a caregiving people-pleaser.
But you don't have to fix him or take responsibility for his feelings, attitude, or reactions. In fact, now is the time to take back your power. This power is one you once gave to him but rightfully belonged to you. This is the power you need to move on and be happy, secure, and confident. So long as you allow him to make you...
The year was 1992, in Barcelona. British athlete Derek Redmond was mounting up, prepared to run his best 400-meter race. With the clearest of intentions, he was determined to place in order to compete for the gold at the Olympics.
"On your marks. Get set. GO!" And off he ran, with speed and focus like no one had seen in him before. He looked like a sure winner. He hit his stride.
Unexpectedly, he heard something pop. He stretched his arm and reached for his hamstring. As he did, he fell to the ground in excruciating pain while his competitors went ahead and finished their race. Derek couldn't move. He had torn his hamstring. The race, it appeared, was over for him. But, as the medics hurried to his aide to carry him off the track, Derek rose to his feet and began to hobble towards the finish line. As he did, his father, who had been in the stands rooting his son to victory, ran to the track, grabbed his underarm, and supported him to...